Friday, 15 July 2016

Why Its OK To Be The Quiet One


~Why Its OK To Be The Quiet One ~
 
Being quiet isn't a bad thing, not a bad thing at all. There are times you don't need to talk and that's fine, being the quiet one is OK. I've always been the quiet one in a group, less so now, but for years and I mean throughout the whole of school life I was the shy and quiet one. I remember nearer the end of my two years of GSCEs, in one of the class I had a conversation with a boy one day and remember him going to his friend's afterwards 'jesus I've never heard her speak that much before' - It was a 5 minute conversation.

But why should you be criticised and put to the side just because you're a little quieter and more shy then others, it shouldn't be a bad thing, but somehow I've always felt it is.
Over the past year, since starting work, I have grown in confidence and with that you do learn how to hold a conversation better. But still, when trying to hold a conversation with a complete stranger or someone I know very little about, I find it still so difficult. Its as if words vanish from my brain and I just smile awkwardly or pretend I'm busy.
 
But there's something else I've learnt, that I really don't care if I'm quiet, around my close friends/ family, I do consider myself bubbly and love a conversation, but I do enjoy silence. I'm quiet also in a sense I like to come home after a days work and be welcome by the serenity of no sound or need to talk - well, when my mum isn't home for the evening, but even when she is, we can be in each others company without the need to talk.
 
The moral of the story is, after years of beating myself up about being shy and quiet, it being a bad thing, it really isn't and shouldn't be. Never criticise yourself for not knowing or wanting to speak. I've learnt that in the end the ones that ignore you and cast you aside for not raising your voice in a conversation, just really aren't worth it. Everyone comes out of their shell eventually, even if it is just around the closest ones to you. Its all about who you feel most comfortable talking to, if that's three people or if that's a massive group, that your comfort levels, don't let yourself feel like its a bad thing, because at the end of the day, sometimes silence is the best thing in the world.
 
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  1. this is such a lovely post. sometimes there is no need to say something. i also think is completely fine to be happy with a calm life. i don't need a massive party every day. i like me time with a cup of tea and some lovely blogs to read.


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    1. Thank you so much, couldn't agree more I do love having a calm life! - glad you agree :) x

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  2. I relate to this so much, it's quite strange really, as this is exactly me. I was quiet all through school and my confidence really grew when I started work. I completely agree with everything you've said! x

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    1. Ah yay so happy you agree! I feel over that past year my confidence has grow dramatically, but I'm can be so incredibly quiet/ shy still at times now when I'm not comfortable, its all just part of growing up isn't it! x

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  3. I am really quiet in class and people I sit next to always complain about that which is awful, I am not going to talk to you if you are rude to me. This post is so true and not everyone can be the loud one xx
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    1. I used to be the exact same in school, would hardly say a word to some people and in return they'd talk to me like crap, not a nice feeling, its 100% ok to be the quiet one, its often a lot better! xx

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  4. This is the most relatable thing, in fact I don't think I could have put it better myself!! I'm exactly the same, I would say I'm quite bubbly etc but I also love my own company - I just like being quiet, especially if I've been at work!!
    I was always super quiet at school too, I hardly ever spoke up in class unless asked something directly, probably due to a fear of 'what people would think'. But again, I think I've grown in confidence so much this past year, that I'm learning not to care what people think of me anymore!! This was such a good post Lisa! <3 xxx

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    1. Aw thank you Lily, you make me smileeeeee :D! I was terribly shy in school, I was just never confident only around my four or five friends, so glad the school bubble is over now because you really do see the bigger picture and from that I think my confidence and shyness has improved. Still, after a long days work, there nothing better then complete silence, literally the best feeling ever!! xxx

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  5. This is a great post, I'm exactly the same. Whenever a conversation opportunity presents itself, I feel like there are no words in my brain. But around friends I'm such a talker! When I'm in a group I just don't feel the need to talk, I'm content with listening and I'm finally accepting it and I've stopped beating myself up for it. I've decided to slowly work on it.
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    1. Thats so nice to hear, because I used to beat myself up about being quiet and that it was a terrible thing, but really being a loud/ confident person isn't a priority in life, if you choose to stay quiet in a group conversation then so be it - just smile and accept yourself for who you are! x

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  6. Relate to this so much! Good post!

    Rebecca x
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